Understand yourself. Practice what comes next.
SaySimons is a communication and relationship-learning platform. Simon guides you through structured learning, practice, and reflection, so the expectations that usually go unsaid become something you can actually work with. And when you’re ready, meet people who share your interests, with more context than a cold start.
Simon guides the whole experience, and it starts with you.
Simon is the guide inside SaySimons. It helps you set a goal, works through the Learning material with you, responds inside practice conversations, and prompts you to reflect afterward. Five steps you can repeat as often as you like — and the same skills you bring with you when you start meeting new people.
See how you communicate
Use the Relationship Compass to reflect on how you communicate, handle conflict, make plans, seek reassurance, open up, and build closeness.
Work on one thing
Choose one communication or relationship goal instead of trying to improve everything at once.
Learn what usually goes unsaid
Work through structured Learning with Simon on the expectations, signals, and unwritten rules that rarely get explained anywhere.
Practice before the moment
Rehearse realistic, fictional conversations connected to your focus and get feedback from Simon on how the exchange went.
Take it into real life
Try a practical exercise outside the app, then privately reflect on what happened afterward and track it in your Practice History.
Simon is not a therapist, a counselor, or a clinician, and SaySimons does not diagnose or treat anything.
Get a clearer view of how you communicate.
The Relationship Compass turns your answers into a clear view of eight areas that can shape how you communicate and relate to other people.
It is based on what you tell SaySimons, and you can update your answers as you learn more about yourself.
Communication directness
How plainly you tend to say what you actually mean.
Emotional pacing
How quickly you tend to share what you are feeling.
Conflict
How you tend to handle disagreement when it shows up.
Reassurance
How much steadiness you look for between messages.
Social energy
How much time around other people tends to give or take.
Planning
How much structure you like around plans and timing.
Intentionality
How clear you tend to be about what you are looking for.
Closeness
How you build and hold closeness over time.
Your Compass is for reflection. It is not a personality test, a diagnosis, or an objective measure of who you are — and it is not a substitute for professional care.
You don’t need to fix everything. Pick one thing.
Choose a communication or relationship goal and it becomes the thing your learning and practice are built around. One concrete goal is easier to work on than a general wish to be better at all of this.
You can change it whenever it stops being the thing you actually need.
- Saying what you mean
- Setting a boundary clearly
- Opening up at your own pace
- Working through disagreement
- Feeling steadier between messages
- Turning a conversation into a plan
The rules nobody says out loud, written down.
A lot of communication runs on expectations people are assumed to already know. Structured Learning works through those with Simon in plain language, one short lesson at a time, connected to the goal you chose so what you read has somewhere to go.
Lessons are grouped into units, you can stop partway through, and you can go back to one whenever you want it again.
Unwritten expectations
The social rules people are assumed to already know, written down plainly.
Reading ambiguity
What is reasonable to conclude from an unclear message, and what is not.
Boundaries
How to say what you do and do not want without rehearsing it for a week.
Misunderstandings
How they start, how to name one, and how to repair it afterward.
Uncertainty
What to do with the stretch of time when you genuinely do not know yet.
Being understood
Getting what you actually mean across, in your own way of speaking.
Learning is written to be practical rather than clinical. It is guidance you can use, not a diagnosis or a course of treatment.
Practice the conversation before you’re in it.
Conversation Practice is a private place to rehearse situations connected to the goal you are working on. Choose a realistic scenario, respond the way you actually would, and get feedback from Simon on how the exchange went and what you could consider trying differently.
The scenarios are fictional. They are separate from any real introductions, connections, and messages.
- Starting a conversation
- Asking for what you need
- Being more direct
- Naming a boundary
- Navigating an unclear signal
- Repairing a misunderstanding
Then try it for real.
SaySimons also gives you practical exercises to take outside the app — at work, with friends, with family, anywhere the skill you are building actually applies. Afterward, Simon asks four short questions so you can privately write up how it went.
- What you did
- What went well
- What you might do differently
- How the experience felt
No one else can read a write-up. Conversation Practice and Real-world Practice both live in your Practice History, so progress is something you can look back on rather than something you have to remember.
Meet people who share your interests, with more context.
Learning and practice are only half of it. When you are ready to put those skills to use, turn on Introductions to meet people who share your interests and communicate in ways that work for you. Each introduction comes with Simon’s reasoning, so you know why someone might be worth a conversation before anyone says hello.
Profiles and questionnaire responses give you context around a new connection, and Simon helps you prepare, reflect, and apply the communication skills you have been developing. Introductions are optional — everything else in SaySimons works whether or not you turn them on.
People who share your interests
Introductions draw on shared interests, communication preferences, and the questionnaire responses each of you chose to share.
Context before the first message
You know a little about how someone likes to talk and what they are into before either of you says hello.
Mutual, and never awkward to decline
A connection only opens when both people request it. A no stays private, so nobody is left wondering.
Simon stays with you
Once a connection opens, Simon helps you prepare, make plans, and reflect afterward, using the same skills you practiced.
Turn it on when you are ready
Introductions are a setting you choose to turn on, whenever you want to start meeting people. Everything else in SaySimons works without them.
A few people, with reasons
There is no unlimited catalog to browse. Participating members receive a limited set of introductions, each one coming with Simon's reasoning for why it might be worth a conversation.
Open one and read it
Open an introduction to see the context around it: shared interests, communication preferences, and the questionnaire responses each of you chose to share.
Request introduction
When someone interests you, you choose Request introduction. If they independently request it too, a connection opens. If either person says no, that decision stays private.
Daily introduction availability and other feature limits may vary by plan.
Where the practice actually gets used.
If a connection does open, it is the beginning rather than the end. SaySimons helps organize what comes next as a connection develops, so the ambiguous middle part has some structure to it — and so the skills you have been practicing have somewhere real to land.
Simon can point out concrete patterns in the information available to SaySimons, but it does not claim to know what another person is thinking or feeling. You stay in control of your decisions, boundaries, and safety.
- 01Messaging
- 02Deciding on a next step
- 03Making plans
- 04Confirming a date
- 05Reflecting afterward
Simon reads the conversation inside SaySimons — not your calls, not what you talked about in person, and not what either of you meant by any of it.
Communication is a skill. It can be learned.
SaySimons is built for adults who are tired of guessing at unwritten social expectations. It is designed with neurodivergent adults in mind, and it is open to anyone who wants a clearer, more structured way to communicate.
Unwritten rules should not be a guessing game.
Communication runs on expectations almost nobody says out loud. SaySimons is built to add structure where there usually is none.
The most useful thing to work on is yourself.
Communication habits travel with you. They matter with friends, at work, with family, in relationships, and with the new people you meet through SaySimons.
Practice belongs before the moment.
Most of the time you only get feedback once something has already gone sideways. SaySimons is built so you can rehearse first and reflect after.
What we stand for.
- Understand how you communicate.
- Choose something you want to work on.
- Learn what usually goes unsaid.
- Practice it before the moment.
- Take it into real life.
- Then meet people who share your interests.
Start with yourself.
Understand how you communicate, choose something to work on, practice it before the moment, and meet people who share your interests when you’re ready.
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